Never get married and mistake someone’s reputation for their character, ku rough out there!!

Kabelo and Family, one of my Favourite couple, not perfect But Blessed!

The greatest mistake you can ever do is to choose to marry your fellow Christian Brother or sister because you believe “they are angels”. Guess what? They are not! They have their own weaknesses, like everyone else do.

We are young and having dreams of marrying the “one”. But the question is, is she/he the one? Are you in love (meaning are you ready for the worst if it lasts for long) or you are just only fantasizing about all “perfect marriage” and only dreaming about your spouse being your first to be perfectly intimate with (and forgetting the weaknesses they might have)?

Are you already concluding the perfect wife/husband in a perfect marriage? This is where the reputation of a person can be mistaken to their character. You will think and “hope” that he/she’s “perfect for you” while their character stinks. They may be all submissive at church, but going back home they might be back chatting to their elders, they might be slapping their siblings, and maybe even their bedrooms’ might be stinky and dirty while dressing all nice and neat at church.

We all go to church for different purposes and a majority of us attend church because of the main reason, and that is the one that God created us to do and that is to be committed and worship Him and Him alone.  While all that is happening (worship) some brethren may be having an eye on someone, wishing they may get married to them. They may be eyeing, for example, the pastor son or pastor’s daughter, or maybe a brother/sister in worship team, or the so called “obedient usher”. And at this point all things look bright and heavenly.

What you need to know is that, it not their reputation (displaying) that you will marry but their character. Choose your spouse wisely so that you will be able to commit and pray for one another. I would also like to stress on the spirit of prayer upon ladies. In marriage we needs a prayer warriors, my dear lady you cannot try to “fix” your hubby by shouting at him, it will not work, you’ll be therefore inviting the spirit of quarreling in your marriage.

Marriage is not the wedding day but a lifetime commitment; therefore choose your spouse wisely. We need more Happy Young Christian couples, Phansi nge divorce Phansi!!